No problem and thank you! :)
It’s not that we can’t afford one. We could have gotten it out of his check, but I preferred not to.
And, basically, we manage by prioritizing. I won’t lie and say we haven’t needed help - because we have, a lot. But we were in debt to a loan and because of that, we ended up behind on our bills, which is why it’s been so hard for us. We’re no longer in debt, caught up on all our bills, but it still takes a minute to get caught up and balanced out, which is where we’re at right now.
BUT I wouldn’t ttc this year if we were still in debt and everything. It was decided BECAUSE we got out of debt and now our head is above the water. Yes, we’re still on food stamps, but even that’s only temporary. The only reason Casey doesn’t have a better job right now is because we don’t have a car to take him where the better jobs are.
And I know people are going to be like, “Why ttc when you don’t have a car??” but we’re not. Us getting a car is already in the works and will happen before we ttc. Then, of course, once we have a car, Casey will get a better job.
Another reason we’re okay with it despite finances not being the best is because I’m now in school and Casey will be in school in the fall or next spring, so once again, things are in the works.
I mean, it might be selfish to not wait until all these things are accomplished before ttc-ing. Some people might not agree with ttc-ing while we’re still in the process of getting these things accomplished, but I don’t really care. We’ve come a long way, I know we’re only headed to higher mountaintops. I’m not going to wait just to appease people’s opinions.
My advice to anyone without a child who wants one but isn’t financially ready is to wait until you’re personally secure enough to be comfortable with having a child. That’s different for everyone. Some people want to wait until everything is 100% stable and others, like myself, are happy to ttc when things are ABOUT to be 100% stable. It’s all about your own personal financial situation, personal security, and personal comfort zone.
Ahh! I just found out when you order a cake from Walmart, you can pay with food stamps! I was kind of worried because we ended up having to use the “extra” money from my disbursement to pay rent because Casey’s check was short, but now it’s okay! I mean, we probably could pay for it out of Casey’s next check, but we could also use that money for other things. It just makes it easier to be able to use FS on this. One less stress!